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Higher Ground Living with Shane and Nikki, explores how to maintain happiness and peace throughout the ups and downs of life. HGL cover the psychology and spiritual tools available to grow strong unshakable mindsets.

Through fun and insightful discussions and third party interviews, Shane and Nikki provide an easy listening approach in their breakdown of complex psychological and spiritual concepts.

"It is our desire to equip people from all over the world with the tools, practice and skills necessary to create lasting changes and happiness in their lives. We want to see a world where more and more people become consciously aware of their lives and grow to choose happiness and peace over fear and hate. We want to see people living their best possible lives, authentically manifesting the lives they know they were born to live. In this way we see a future where more people are living higher ground lives. Being happy, being peaceful and living abundant blessed lives." Shane & Nikki

Mar 1, 2018

How to deal with responsibility


Do you get overwhelmed with responsibilities?


When your trying to get something new done, trying to create a better life or just trying to rest. Do you get frustrated and overwhelmed with all the “responsibilities” in your life?


I know I do. The endless demands of parenthood, marriage and work sometimes take every moment of everyday and there is just nothing left for you. Your trying to learn new things to manifest a better lifestyle but the responsibilities of your existing life crush all your dreams. Therefore you end up getting frustrated thinking “how am I going to manifest a better life if all I ever have time for is this existing life?”.


As frustrating as this can be, reality is that these responsibilities are not going away anytime soon so we are going to have to learn to deal with it and still manifest our dreams.


A great place to start is to look at the work responsibility in a new way.


Break the word down: Response-Ability: Our Ability to Respond.


The key to getting over the frustration of responsibilities is to grow in our ability to respond. Realise that your ability to respond in all situations can grow. There is no point getting stuck in frustration. That does not get us closer to our goals. We must look at ways we can respond better. In our family life, marriage and work we can really move forward if we take time to grow our abilities.


Growing your ability to respond just takes some conscious effort to seek out teaching and mentorship on the areas you are struggling with. Just ask doctor Google and you’ll be on your way. Better still, listen to the Higher Ground Living Podcast for great content to help you grow.


Look, it's easy to say “just get over it and make the changes” but I know it's not so simple to break free of the frustrated, defeated mindset. One way that has helped me greatly came from a friend I was talking to about some long term issues that I was having. He gave me this great piece of wisdom.


Think back to the times when these issues were creating trouble in your life. How did it feel then? My response was “it felt like i would never get past it. That it was impossible.” To which he said “Well look where you are today, you're still here. From this vantage point how hard does that problem look now?” My response “well, not so bad”.


Yes it was hard and yes i'm tired of the same issues coming up but reality is I'm still here. I made it through. Life moved on and good things happened. We make these giant mountains out of situations that really just need a better response from us. Remember, the problem is not the problem. We are the problem. Our ability to respond is the problem.


This is where we need to break down another word to expand our thinking.


Impossible = I’m-Possible


We need this mindset that “I am possible”. When things look bad and it's time to respond. Believe that “i’m possible” That yes I can do this. I've been through tough things before and I'm still here. I'll get through this too and soon i'll be looking back thinking “I remember that, it wasn't so bad”.


It's all in our perspective and ability to respond. We need to let go of our frustrations and limitations and believe in our abilities. If we don't have great abilities in certain areas then ask for help. Seek help from people who do know. Don’t suffer in your own little self imposed prison.


Remember Newton's Third Law of Physics


“For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”.


Imagine if we could use that in our troubled times. Knowing that for every problem there is a solution waiting to be found. Imagine we could take time when confronted with a problem and seek the solution rather than freak out.


Thats real Response-Ability. Knowing that no matter what the problem is there is a solution and i’m going to find it. I’m not going to give into frustration and the desire to run away. I’m going to face this and let the solution come to me.


The great thing is that each time we confront our problems head on with confidence, then we grow stronger in our ability to respond in the future.